| The heart has its reasons. We try to explain emotions inadequately. The heart is a mystery. Relationship, emotion, passion can be grasped by the tools of poetry and religion. Soul does not make love a project. In general our thinking has become too mechanized. The ways of soul are filled with paradox. Jung said the soul is the archetype of life. Emerson said the soul does not advance in a straight line. The soul appears regressive. Soul is attachment, spirit is detachment. Rilke thought each person should protect the solitude of the other. The soul is always complicated. We all have skeletons in out closets and monsters in out hearts. None of us may want to know who we really are. Reading psychology books may be a distraction of attending to the soul! Every marriage has exterior and interior dimensions. Marriage is a profound stirring of souls. When we idealize the family, we also demonize it. Our secular ideal of family may become excessively personal. A family is a form of community. Families complcate life. It may be wise to cultivate friendship in an indirect manner. We could deal with our paranoia by placing more value on intuition. True conversation is an interpenetration of worlds. A conversation grows at its own tempo. Some people do not have the patience to get to know each other over time. The soul of relationships is not goal-minded. The book is pleasant and useful. Discussions of symbolism and mythology run through the chapters. | 
